Most of us blame others for our own low or high Self Esteem. That is partially true but you have much more control over your Self Esteem than you realise. First, let's understand the difference between Self Esteem and Self Concept.
Self Concept is how we "think" others see us.
Self Esteem is how we feel about ourselves BASED ON our Self Concept.
So if we think others see us as unattractive, or lower than them, then our Self Esteems will be low. Remember, Self Concept is how we "think" others see us. What if we are wrong in how we think others see us? What if we could change how we "think" others see us?
If we get this Blog going and people are interested, I'll give you three simple ways to improve you Self Esteem through improving your Self Concept.
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Here are three ways to improve Self Esteem by managing the impressions we give to others.
ReplyDeleteREMEMBER, IT'S NOT WHAT YOU HAVE, IT'S WHAT YOU DO WITH WHAT YOU HAVE!
Setting: If we walked into your bedroom, what would we see? Is your bed made; are clothes hanging up or thrown about the room? What if you have a $2,000 bedroom set but dust everywhere and trash on your dresser? What if you have a $25 bed from Goodwill with a spotless room and an organized closet? What impression would we get of you? It's not what you have, it's what you do with what you have.
Setting includes who you hang out with. If you are a duck and you hang out with turkeys, people we assume you are a turkey: not fair but a reality.
Manner: This includes typical manners like opening doors for people or how you eat, but also includes the manner you walk, talk, write, and speak. Most of this stereotyping is unfair but it's a reality. If you talk with poor grammer and/or street talk, people judge you as less intellegent. Poor penmenship sometimes can't be helped but it still will be judged. (Type everything!)
Appearance: What good is a $100 haircut if you haven't washed your hair for a week? How about the expensive suit or dress that has never been cleaned and you are a smoker? What about that new sports car that has never been washed and there are empty, sticky pop cans in the seat? Rather ride with the friend who has a '96 rusted Chevy Sedan that is so clean inside and out you could eat off the floor? It's what you do with what you have!
Professor Rodasky,
ReplyDeleteI hadn't thought of it from this perspective, at least not conciously. Thanks for going into more detail with it.